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Ever Feel Like You Missed the Boat?

2012-01-01T16:09:00.000-06:00

Happy 2012

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ENJOY HOLIDAY PARTIES WITH PERSONALITY SUCCESS!

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ENJOY HOLIDAY PARTIES WITH PERSONALITY SUCCESS!

THE "D" PERSONALITY STYLE:

ENVIRONMENT: Prefers upbeat, fast, and powerful!

SHOPPING: Get it done, bottom line - "What do you want? I have a limited amount of time."

GIFTS: Anything that will help them "accomplish" things.

PARTIES: Thinks, "too many people, too little time."

THE "I" PERSONALITY STYLE:

ENVIRONMENT: Prefers fun, friendly, and exciting!

SHOPPING: "Let's shop 'til we drop, spend 'til the end, and buy 'til we die! We'll figure out how to pay later!"

GIFTS: Surprises that are fun!

PARTIES: The more, the better! Let's go, go go!

THE "S" PERSONALITY STYLE:

ENVIRONMENT: Prefers predictable, stable, and harmonious.

SHOPPING: Takes wa-a-a-a-a-y too much energy, but "I like taking care of my family."

GIFTS: Traditional, thoughtful, and keepsakes.

PARTIES: One or two very close friends is the best get-together.

THE "C" PERSONALITY STYLE:

ENVIRONMENT: Prefers structure with procedures, accuracy, and quality.

SHOPPING: Makes a list, checks it twice, marks it off, done. If it's not on the list, forget it.

GIFTS: Logical, small parts and details - will read the directions before assembling.

PARTIES: The noise, the people, the hoopla is too much stimulation. Give them a task to complete for down time.

Enjoy the holiday "styles" with your friends and family! Remember, when you understand personality styles, you know that no personality style is right or wrong -- just different!
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11-11-11

2011-11-11T08:37:00.000-06:00

11-11-11. A significant day for very significant people. May we all take this opportunity to honor and say thank you to our veterans today - for their unfailing service to our country - past and future. God bless America!

HOUR OF POWER

2011-11-10T09:29:00.000-06:00

WARNING! 60 minutes ahead. Stomp on the accelerator, pass by the passive "put-offs," & go for an HOUR OF POWER! You-can-do-it! We all can. ONE hour of hitting it hard, then you can rest if need be. Okay, I'm with you! Let's do it! Green light, GO!

Confident Moms

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I spoke to a mom's group this week on how to be a confident mom. Many moms are living boldly and confidently. Many are struggling. Are you living confidently? If so, tell us how and what you're doing!

LOVE DARE #40

2011-02-12T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 40: Love is a Covenant

WRITE OUT A RENEWAL OF YOUR VOWS AND PLACE THEM IN YOUR HOME. PERHAPS, IF APPROPRIATE, YOU COULD MAKE ARRANGEMENTS TO FORMALLY RENEW YOUR WEDDING VOWS BEFORE A MINISTER AND WITH FAMILY PRESENT. MAKE IT A LIVING TESTAMENT TO THE VALUE OF MARRIAGE IN GOD'S EYES AND THE HIGH HONOR OF BEING ONE WITH YOUR MATE.

Our final LOVE DARE. Congratulations - forty days and forty nights completed. It's been an amazing journey. We've reached the end of the LOVE DARE commitment, but the commitment of loving your spouse will never come to an end. Consider this as an opportunity to establish a new covenant - a covenant, not a contract. The two seem similar, but are actually very different.

We sign a contract outlining timeframes, conditions, and agreed-upon consequences if broken. But a covenant is based on trust with no expiration date - never intended to be broken. Marriage is the strongest covenant on earth between two people - pledging unconditional love for a lifetime. It's not something you can do on your own strength, but God - the One who initiated the first covenant - will enable you to succeed as a covenant keeper.

Your marriage is before you now – it’s in your hands. What will it be - mediocre? Good enough to get by? We ask you - we DARE you - make it a "Championship Marriage." Game on!

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God" (Ruth 1:16).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Happy Valentine's Day! May it be your best ever. We pray for all marriages - and ask you to pray for one another, as well.

We want to remind you that Dale and I will be teaching the "Championship Marriage" session this Sunday, February 13 at College Church of the Nazarene (Olathe, KS) in room K-102 at 11:00 am. We would love for you to join us. If you would like us to speak to your group, please contact us.

Blessings for a "LOVE DARE" life,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #39

2011-02-11T08:00:00.004-06:00

Day 39: Love Endures

SPEND TIME IN PERSONAL PRAYER, THEN WRITE A LETTER OF COMMITMENT AND RESOLVE TO YOUR SPOUSE. INCLUDE WHY YOU ARE COMMITTING TO THIS MARRIAGE UNTIL DEATH, AND THAT YOU HAVE PURPOSED TO LOVE THEM NO MATTER WHAT. LEAVE IT IN A PLACE THAT YOUR MATE WILL FIND IT.

It's hard to believe we're down to our last two LOVE DARES. We've prayed for you continuously throughout this journey. So, how's it going? We've heard wonderful stories, but what about you? Are you feeling you've given it your "all," but to no avail? Your spouse is not responding - standing alone -rejected? What do you do now?

You continue to love. Why? Because love endures; love never fails. Peter told Jesus, "I will never fall away.... Even if I have to die with You, I will not deny You" (Matthew 26:33,35). Within hours of Peter's promise - as well as promises from the other disciples - they failed Him. Yet, Jesus never stopped loving them. In fact, He continued to forge ahead to the cross - to die for them.

Love as Jesus loved; love your spouse - even when it's not received. Love as you promised - until death. (Don't get any ideas here.) Love that is from God is unstoppable - it endures.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Love never fails" (1 Corinthians 13:8).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: If your spouse walks away and your marriage fails, let it not be because you didn't do your part - gave up, stopped trying or stopped loving them. Love refuses to give up.

As we approach Valentine's Day and our final LOVE DARE, we want to remind you that Dale and I are teaching the "Championship Marriage" session this Sunday, February 13 at College Church of the Nazarene (Olathe, KS) in room K-102 at 11:00 am. We would love for you to join us. In fact, we "DARE" you!

Blessings for an "unstoppable" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #38

2011-02-10T08:00:00.006-06:00

Day 38: Love Fulfills Dreams

ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOUR MATE WOULD WANT IF IT WAS OBTAINABLE. COMMIT THIS TO PRAYER, AND START MAPPING OUT A PLAN FOR MEETING SOME (IF NOT ALL) OF THEIR DESIRES, TO WHATEVER LEVEL YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

Dreams, goals, and desires - we all have them. In fact, God placed them in our hearts. Every New Year's Day, Dale and I go out to lunch for the specific purpose of establishing and sharing our goals with each other. It's quite a process - hours of planning. The result? We know how (or what) to pray for - and how to assist in achieving our goals and fulfilling our dreams.

Not all dreams and desires are the big ones; they come in all shapes and sizes. Fortunately, we can easily fulfill small, daily desires such as: treat her like a lady; treat him with respect. Listen and learn about your spouse. Be their cheerleader, dream giver. Unmet desires - recent setbacks? Offer grace. Jesus did when we didn't deserve it. He is our model - imitate Him.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: If it's important to your spouse, make it important to you. Take it to a new level of love today - go for the "goal."

Blessings for a "dream-filling" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #37

2011-02-09T08:00:00.005-06:00

Day 37: Love Agrees in Prayer

ASK YOUR SPOUSE IF YOU CAN BEGIN PRAYING TOGETHER. TALK ABOUT THE BEST TIME TO DO THIS, WHETHER IT'S IN THE MORNING, YOUR LUNCH HOUR, OR BEFORE BEDTIME. USE THIS TIME TO COMMIT YOUR CONCERNS, DISAGREEMENTS, AND NEEDS BEFORE THE LORD. DON'T FORGET TO THANK HIM FOR HIS PROVISION AND BLESSING. EVEN IF YOUR SPOUSE REFUSES TO DO THIS, RESOLVE TO SPEND THIS DAILY TIME IN PRAYER YOURSELF.

Yes, it's true - prayer changes things. Big decision? Take it to the Lord. (As Creator of the universe - He's got some pretty good insight.) Hurt? He's waiting. Fighting? Grab hands and pray.

Dale and I learned many years ago that regardless of the situation - who's right or what's wrong - to grab hands (even when we're pretty bent out of shape), and pray about the situation. It's hard to stay angry (or ugly) when we've called on God to intervene. We may not get to a "happy place" right away, but taking time to pause with God stops the bleeding and promotes the healing.

God wants you to come to Him, so He can help you and guide you. "Awkward," you say. "I don't know how to pray." Can you talk? If so, you can pray. Go ahead - try it at least one time.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father" (Matthew 18:19).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Blessings will fall on your marriage when you agree in prayer. Prayer is a privilege. Make it a standing appointment. Keep God in the middle of everything.

Blessings for a "hand-grabbing" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #36

2011-02-08T08:00:00.004-06:00

Day 36: Love is God's Word

COMMIT TO READING THE BIBLE EVERY DAY. FIND A DEVOTIONAL BOOK OR OTHER RESOURCE THAT WILL GIVE YOU SOME GUIDANCE. IF YOUR SPOUSE IS OPEN TO IT, SEE IF THEY WILL COMMIT TO DAILY BIBILE READING WITH YOU. BEGIN SUBMITTING EACH AREA OF YOUR LIFE TO ITS GUIDANCE AND START BUILDING ON THE ROCK.

"Who has time to read the Bible every day? Career, kids, exercise, 'To Do' lists - are you kidding me?" Those were my thoughts nearly twenty years ago. That is, until the void in my heart remained unfilled. So, I made a pack with a friend in the same boat (sinking ship). She and I committed to setting our alarms ten minutes earlier each morning for Bible study time. That wasn't too painful. So, two weeks later, we added another ten. From that day on, my time with God has never ceased - increasing over the years.

What's so great about reading the Bible? It's just a book, right? The Bible is so much more. It's our compass - guided by the Holy Spirit. God reveals His plan for everything in His Word. Unlike other books, the Bible rains down (sometimes pours) a fresh and new Word every day. It's a living book - because the Author is still alive - in fact, He’s our cruise director.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path" (Psalm 119:105).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Study the Word and share new insights with one another. Start with ten minutes. Avoid becoming the "captain of the Titanic" in your home.

Blessings for a "smooth sailing" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #35

2011-02-07T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 35: Love is Accountable

FIND A MARRIAGE MENTOR - SOMEONE WHO IS A STRONG CHRISTIAN AND WHO WILL BE HONEST AND LOVING WITH YOU. IF YOU FEEL THAT COUNSELING IS NEEDED, THEN TAKE THE FIRST STEP TO SET UP AN APPOINTMENT. DURING THIS PROCESS, ASK GOD TO DIRECT YOUR DECISIONS AND DISCERNMENT.

Last spring, a perfectly shaped Bradford Pear tree adorned our front yard with beautiful white blossoms. Today stands merely a stump - the result of an ice storm. Bradford Pears are fragile - unlike strong, enduring Sequoia trees. The secret to the enduring strength of the mighty Sequoia tree lies beneath the surface. Sequoias reach out and interlock their roots - reinforcing and empowering one another to survive the fiercest of storms.

A strong healthy marriage exhibits this same Sequoia secret. A couple who faces storms alone will more likely fall apart. A couple who interlocks with other strong Christian couples can survive the fiercest of storms. Wise people seek godly advice and gladly receive it. Fools never ask for it - or ignore it when it's given. "Branch" out - seek godly advice, experienced mentors, and healthy friendships today.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed" (Proverbs 15:22).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Is there a fierce storm brewing in your marriage? Don’t be “stumped.” Pursue godly counsel as quickly as possible. Reach out, interlock - grow strong and blossom.

Blessings for a "Sequoia" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #34

2011-02-06T08:00:00.003-06:00

Day 34: Love Celebrates Godliness

FIND A SPECIFIC, RECENT EXAMPLE WHEN YOUR SPOUSE DEMONSTRATED CHRISTIAN CHARACTER IN A NOTICEABLE WAY. VERBALLY COMMEND THEM FOR THIS AT SOME POINT TODAY.

When Dale and I first met, he displayed about 200 trophies around his bachelor-decorated house. A short time later, he tossed every single one of them. (Don't jump to conclusions - his idea, not mine.) (Prayer works, though.)

His achievements and success were evident in every room of his house. However, no trophy will shine brighter or stand taller than his love and walk with God. That's a lifetime trophy that will never be tarnished or tossed. The way he leads our prayer time, Bible study conversations, and devotion to God. That's the real trophy of success in anyone’s life. How about yours?

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth" (1 Corinthians 13:6).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Applaud your spouse's godly success today. Win the Super Bowl of life - and cheer on your MVP!

Blessings for a "winning" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #33

2011-02-05T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 33: Love Completes Each Other

RECOGNIZE THAT YOUR SPOUSE IS INTEGRAL TO YOUR FUTURE SUCCESS. LET THEM KNOW TODAY THAT YOU DESIRE TO INCLUDE THEM IN YOUR UPCOMING DECISIONS, AND THAT YOU NEED THEIR PERSPECTIVE AND COUNSEL. IF YOU HAVE IGNORED THEIR INPUT IN THE PAST, ADMIT YOUR OVERSIGHT AND ASK THEM TO FORGIVE YOU.

If we were to continue with a math analysis, today's LOVE DARE would debunk the 1+1=1. In actuality, 1+1= a whole lot more! Depending on your personality style, you may like accomplishing things on your own - independent. However, we don't just independently coexist in the same home. In fact, when working together, we multiply the effectiveness of our accomplishments.

In other words - synergy. Let's use a musical note for an example. One note - sounds okay, but combine a bunch of notes together and we create beautiful music. When we work together as a team, we harmonize.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?" (Ecclesiastes 4:11).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Working together, we are greater than the sum of our independent parts. Make your marriage = a whole lot more. Complete the equation - complete each other.

Blessings for a "musical" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #32

2011-02-04T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 32: Love Meets Sexual Needs

IF AT ALL POSSIBLE, TRY TO INITIATE SEX WITH YOR HUSBAND OR WIFE TODAY. DO THIS IN A WAY THAT HONORS WHAT YOUR SPOUSE HAS TOLD YOU (OR IMPLIED TO YOU) ABOUT WHAT THEY NEED FROM YOU SEXUALLY. ASK GOD TO MAKE THIS ENJOYABLE FOR BOTH OF YOU AS WELL AS A PATH TO GREATER INTIMACY.

Okay, close your jaw; don't kill the messenger. As awkward as this topic can be, the Bible has a great deal to say on this subject. Sex described in the Bible is not the same as what's depicted in movies, on television, or the internet. Enticing maybe, but "R" rated impressions can capture our hearts and ultimately destroy our marriages.

Reality is – thighs expand, bellies protrude, and headaches happen! Babies wear us out, teenagers cause stress, work demands, and priorities change. But a healthy, strong, vibrant marriage pursues holiness and purity with romance and sexual needs met. God created sexual intimacy, not the movie producers. His plan is for man and wife to love, fulfill, and enjoy one another - placing value on each other's needs as higher than our own.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband" (1 Corinthians 7:3).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: God called you to tenderly meet your spouse's needs. Different desires? Discover a middle ground and reestablish a loving union between the two of you.

Blessings for an "aspirin-free" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #31

2011-02-03T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 31: Love and Marriage

IS THERE A "LEAVING" ISSUE YOU HAVEN'T BEEN BRAVE ENOUGH TO CONQUER YET? CONFESS IT TO YOUR SPOUSE TODAY, AND RESOLVE TO MAKE IT RIGHT. THE ONENESS OF YOUR MARRIAGE IS DEPENDENT UPON IT. FOLLOW THIS WITH A COMMITMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE AND TO GOD TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE THE TOP PRIORITY OVER EVERY OTHER HUMAN RELATIONSHIP.

Good morning everyone, class is in session. World class, that is. We discovered that these LOVE DARES are currently read in twelve different countries! God is at work around the world. Who knew?

Yesterday we learned a new "Marriage Math:" 1+1=1 (a "one"derful marriage). Today we will study "Marriage Geometric Shapes." What "shape" is your marriage in?

• CIRCLE - Endless circle of love, no sides, joined together forever.
• TRIANGLE - God is at the top, husband on one point, wife on the other. As each one strives to grow closer to God at the top of the triangle, you'll find you actually grow closer to one another in the process.
• SQUARE - Don't be. Need I say more?

Regardless of your current "Marriage Shape," the two of you - are one. One flesh, one love - one new life. That means - leave and cleave. Mom and Dad are now great advisors, now and then make a great point, but they're not a point on your marriage TRIANGLE. "Draw" closer together - draw closer to God.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Class is over for now. Sure, math can be difficult, but study (your spouse) and do your "homework." Be at the top of your class!

Blessings for a "first class" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

Thanks for spreading the word and caring about marriages!

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #30

2011-02-02T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 30: Love Brings Unity

ISOLATE ONE AREA OF DIVISION IN YOUR MARRIAGE, AND LOOK ON TODAY AS A FRESH OPPORTUNITY TO PRAY ABOUT IT. ASK THE LORD TO REVEAL ANYTHING IN YOUR OWN HEART THAT IS THREATENING ONENESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE. PRAY THAT HE WOULD DO THE SAME FOR THEM. AND IF APPROPRIATE, DISCUSS THIS MATTER OPENLY, SEEKING GOD FOR UNITY.

With varying degrees of skills, talents, and personality styles, it's difficult to achieve unity in a marriage. Unity, however, does not mean uniformity. We accomplish unity when we adapt and appreciate our differences. We see unity achieved in perfection through the compelling mystery of the Trinity - Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

God created marriage as one aspect of unity, as well. When you became husband and wife, you became one - two bodies, but "one flesh." God also used the image of marriage to describe His most beloved "bride" - the church. Christ (the bridegroom) gave Himself up for his bride seeing her "as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless" (Ephesians 5:27). How do you perceive your spouse?

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are" (John 17:11).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Oneness, intertwined, and complete. Do everything possible to honor, lift up, and sacrifice for your spouse today. Do the marriage math - 1+1=1 (a "one-derful" marriage).

Blessings for "one-derful" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #29

2011-02-01T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 29: Love's Motivation

BEFORE YOU SEE YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN TODAY, PRAY FOR THEM BY NAME AND FOR THEIR NEEDS. WHETHER IT COMES EASY FOR YOU OR NOT, SAY "I LOVE YOU," THEN EXPRESS LOVE TO THEM IN SOME TANGIBLE WAY. GO TO GOD IN PRAYER AGAIN, THANKING HIM FOR GIVING YOU THE PRIVILEGE OF LOVING THIS ONE SPECIAL PERSON - UNCONDITIONALLY, THEY WAY HE LOVES BOTH OF YOU.

Sure, you tried to show love, but it just wasn't accepted. You've been considerate, thoughtful, and completed every LOVE DARE so far, but your spouse - forget it. Initially, you were motivated to do what it takes, but lost the inspiration to demonstrate love anymore. The marriage is not breathing. You're done.

Whew. Thank goodness, God doesn't think like we do! He's never done. He never gives up on us. He loves - unconditionally, regardless, and yes, even when these flawed little human beings don't deserve it. To love within our own ability is futile. Focus first on loving God - then loving your spouse "as to the Lord."

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men" (Ephesians 6:7).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: If you'll focus on loving your spouse as God loves you today - you'll be able to breathe fresh oxygen into your marriage. Marriage CPR - start pumping.

Blessings for "refreshing" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #28

2011-01-31T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 28: Love Makes Sacrifices

WHAT IS ONE OF THE GREATEST NEEDS IN YOUR SPOUSE'S LIFE RIGHT NOW? IS THERE A NEED YOU COULD LIFT FROM THEIR SHOULDERS TODAY BY A DARING ACT OF SACRIFICE ON YOUR PART? WHETHER THE NEED IS BIG OR SMALL, PURPOSE TO DO WHAT YOU CAN TO MEET THE NEED.

Life is hard, marriage is hard, and these LOVE DARES are hard! Looking for that "Easy Road" exit? If we're to follow the road Jesus took, we're to lay down our lives for others. He taught us to recognize the needs in others and do all we can to stay on the path - lend a hand and be a blessing.

Too often, we don't recognize our spouse's need until we hear it voiced. Then we consider it a "complaint" rather than an opportunity to be their champion, supporter, and teammate. Respond before you're asked today. Take the "High Road." Pray for the best way to help.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers" (1 John 3:16 HCSB).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Go into action mode. If troubles have buried your spouse - start digging.

Blessings for "safe travels" today,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #27

2011-01-30T08:00:00.003-06:00

Day 27: Love Encourages

ELIMINATE THE POISON OF UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS IN YOUR HOME. THINK OF ONE AREA WHERE YOUR SPOUSE HAS TOLD YOU YOU'RE EXPECTING TOO MUCH, AND TELL THEM YOU'RE SORRY FOR BEING SO HARD ON THEM ABOUT IT. PROMISE THEM YOU'LL SEEK TO UNDERSTAND, AND ASSURE THEM OF YOUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

A "speck inspector" - he or she who notices the speck in your eye, not the log in their own. Speck inspectors "inspect" and "expect" unrealistic performances and accomplishments. They downplay their own negative attributes, while placing their spouse's failures under a magnifying glass!

Loving spouses, on the other hand, establish a safe environment, positive and encouraging. When you fall down, a loving spouse lifts you up. Sure, there are disappointments, unmet needs, hurt feelings, and failures. Love protects and supports - bending over backwards to encourage.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed for I take refuge in You" (Psalm 25:20).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Love doesn't discourage - love encourages. Don't "inspect," but "respect" each other. Allow freedom for mistakes as an opportunity to grow and encourage one another.

Blessings for a "positive and encouraging" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #26

2011-01-29T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 26: Love is Responsible

TAKE TIME TO PRAY THROUGH YOUR AREAS OF WRONGDOING. ASK FOR GOD'S FORGIVENESS, THEN HUMBLE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO ADMIT THEM TO YOUR SPOUSE. DO IT SINCERELY AND TRUTHFULLY. ASK YOUR SPOUSE FOR FORGIVENESS AS WELL. NO MATTER HOW THEY RESPOND, MAKE SURE YOU COVER YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IN LOVE. EVEN IF THEY RESPOND WITH CRITICISM, ACCEPT IT BY RECEIVING IT AS COUNSEL.

What's your favorite game? I wonder, without realizing it, how many of us would choose the "blame game?" After all, we do seem to play it quite often. It's easy to play, that is - to find fault, to blame someone else - particularly our spouse.

Have you wronged your spouse and never apologized - never rectified the situation? Have you failed to ask for forgiveness, been a little prideful? Admitting mistakes is our responsibility - difficult, but God will give you the strength to take this step - in order to keep His favor. God wants no unresolved issues in your marriage.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge do the same things" (Romans 2:1).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Love doesn't make excuses, blame others. Love is more concerned with the needs of others. Love takes responsibility and makes a positive difference.

Blessings for a "blame-free" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #25

2011-01-28T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 25: Love Forgives

WHATEVER YOU HAVEN'T FORGIVEN IN YOUR MATE, FORGIVE IT TODAY. LET IT GO. JUST AS WE ASK JESUS TO "FORGIVE US OUR DEBTS" EACH DAY, WE MUST ASK HIM TO HELP US "FORGIVE OUR DEBTORS" EACH DAY AS WELL. UNFORGIVENESS HAS BEEN KEEPING YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE IN PRISON TOO LONG. SAY FROM YOUR HEART, "I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE."

Hang on - this is a tough one. In fact, we could safely say this is the toughest LOVE DARE of all. Counselors verify, ministers confirm - forgiveness must happen or a marriage won't succeed. But, how can we forgive those scandalous acts? Jesus is a perfect example.

Will forgiveness exonerate your spouse; get them off the hook with no repercussions? Let's allow God to handle that one. (He's fully qualified.) In the meantime, forgiveness breeds peace and empathy - a "weight" lifted off your shoulders. That's a "diet" of true love and acceptance - acceptance not of the behavior, but of God's will for your marriage.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ" (2 Corinthians 2:10).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: No marriage is exempt from hurtful actions, wrongdoings, or damage done, but great marriages keep "no record of wrongs" (1 Corinthians 13:5).

Blessings for a "forgetful" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #24

2011-01-27T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 24: Love vs. Lust

END IT NOW. IDENTIFY EVERY OBJECT OF LUST IN YOUR LIFE AND REMOVE IT. SINGLE OUT EVERY LIE YOU'VE SWALLOWED IN PURSING FORBIDDEN PLEASURE AND REJECT IT. LUST CANNOT BE ALLOWED TO LIVE IN A BACK BEDROOM. IT MUST BE KILLED AND DESTROYED - TODAY - AND REPLACED WITH THE SURE PROMISES OF GOD AND A HEART FILLED WITH HIS PERFECT LOVE.

"I want it, I deserve it, therefore..." You know the rest; we go after it. Once we get it, we want something else. What is it about the "forbidden fruit" that entices us so? Remember the expression, "the devil made me do it?" BINGO. But, the devil doesn't work alone - not without our cooperation.

Lust makes us dissatisfied with our lives, so we set our hearts on something forbidden - worldly pleasures - another person, a bigger house, snazzy car, and yes, even food. (After all, lust began with a piece of fruit.) Lust consumes our thoughts, but it's the opposite of love. In fact, lust is the first step out of fellowship with God - who provides all we need for true contentment and lasting joy.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "The world is passing away, and also it's lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever" (1 John 2:17).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Lust always breeds more lust - an endless cycle of dissatisfaction. Only God can fulfill and satisfy the desires of our hearts. Take action. Do whatever you need to do to receive the full, productive life God planned for you.

Blessings for a "lust-free" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #23

2011-01-26T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 23: Love Always Protects

REMOVE ANYTHING THAT IS HINDERING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, ANY ADDICTION OR INFLUENCE THAT'S STEALING YOUR AFFECTIONS AND TURNING YOUR HEART AWAY FROM YOUR SPOUSE.

"Lunch - why not? It's business related; my spouse will just have to understand." So - it began. Or how about, "I love these romance novels - they help me escape from my boring marriage." Or maybe, "It's just one click - I won't look again." And, so it began. It all begins somewhere - the affair, the addiction, the cranky attitude, the stolen heart. Parasites.

Parasites - they come in various disguises. At first, a parasite seems innocent enough, harmless, no big deal - until it sucks the life right out of a marriage. How do we deal with it? Destroy it - immediately. If you've seen the "Fireproof" movie, you've seen how the husband dealt with his pornography problem - smashed that computer to pieces. That's radical determination to destroy the parasite. That's exactly what it takes - conviction, courage, willpower - to succeed.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Love always protects" (1 Corinthians 13:7).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Resolve to protect your marriage - be radical if you must - it'll be worth it. Do your part - begin right now.

Blessings for a "parasite-free" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #22

2011-01-25T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 22: Love is Faithful

LOVE IS A CHOICE, NOT A FEELING. IT IS AN INITIATED ACTION, NOT A KNEE-JERK REACTION. CHOOSE TODAY TO BE COMMITTED TO LOVE EVEN IF YOUR SPOUSE HAS LOST MOST OF THEIR INTEREST IN RECEIVING IT. SAY TO THEM TODAY IN WORDS SIMILAR TO THESE, "I LOVE YOU. PERIOD. I CHOOSE TO LOVE YOU EVEN IF YOU DON'T LOVE ME IN RETURN."

"I do." Precious words - proclaimed with dreams, hopes, and expectations of riding off into the sunset. Soon, however, Prince Charming became alarming - and the beautiful Queen became mean! The castle became a mess - children arrived, bills showed up, disappointments set in. That cherished spouse - now the enemy. Who would have thought?

But God said, "love anyway." Love as Jesus loves. Love in spite of - love when you don't even like. Want an example? Read the book of Hosea. The prophet, Hosea, was married to a real piece of work, but God told Hosea to love his wife in spite of her behavior. This is a perfect example of God's love for us - unconditional - faithful. How can we possibly demonstrate that kind of faithfulness? Only by the power of the King of Kings. Choose it (before it's too late).

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord" (Hosea 2:20).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: God continues to love us when at times - we have been downright unlovable. Love stays faithful; love loves. Be pro-active, not re-active today.

Blessings for a "faith full" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #21

2011-01-24T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 21: Love is Satisfied in God

BE INTENTIONAL TODAY ABOUT MAKING A TIME TO PRAY AND READ YOUR BIBLE. TRY READING A CHAPTER OUT OF PROVERBS EACH DAY (THERE ARE THIRTY-ONE - A FULL MONTH'S SUPPLY), OR READING A CHAPTER IN THE GOSPELS (MATTHEW, MARK, LUKE, AND JOHN). AS YOU DO, IMMERSE YOURSELF IN THE LOVE AND PROMISES GOD HAS FOR YOU. THIS WILL ADD TO YOUR GROWTH AS YOU WALK WITH HIM.

Some of you may have encountered this "LOVE DARE" journey with miraculous transformations and benefits. Some may feel alone and dissatisfied. Regardless of the circumstances, you are never alone. Your spouse may have let you down (you may have let your spouse down), but God will never - ever - let us down. He will always lift us up.

Yesterday was an important "LOVE DARE." Depending on your walk with God - new territory or a well-worn path - God is on this journey with you. Can your spouse meet every need? No, but God can. Can your spouse give you a peace that surpasses all understanding? No, but...God can. First, you must seek Him. You will find Him - when you seek Him with all your heart (Jeremiah 29:13).

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "The Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your desire" (Isaiah 58:11).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: God - the Creator of the universe - can do all things. He can - and will - meet every need. He loves us beyond our comprehension.

Blessings for a "very satisfying" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #20

2011-01-23T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ

DARE TO TAKE GOD AT HIS WORD. DARE TO TRUST JESUS CHRIST FOR SALVATION. DARE TO PRAY, "LORD JESUS, I'M A SINNER. BUT YOU HAVE SHOWN YOUR LOVE FOR ME BY DYING TO FORGIVE MY SINS, AND YOU HAVE PROVEN YOUR POWER TO SAVE ME FROM DEATH BY YOUR RESURRECTION. LORD, CHANGE MY HEART, AND SAVE ME BY YOUR GRACE."

We're halfway through the LOVE DARES and halfway until Valentine's Day! Question - have you made your reservations? Smoking or non-smoking? I'm not talking about your favorite restaurant (but do that, too). I'm referring to your eternal reservations.

What's that mean? When our journey on this earth is complete and our purpose is fulfilled, how can we confirm we’re going to heaven? It's simple. First, we recognize our sin and ask for forgiveness. Because God loves us, He sent His Son, Jesus - who never sinned - to die in our place on the cross - as payment for our sin. PAID IN FULL. You can be confident of confirmed reservations in heaven when you ask Christ to come into your heart - then seek to live a life pleasing to God - and experience the unexplainable joy!

To begin this personal relationship with God, follow the THREE A's to a new life.

1) Acknowledge your sin
2) Ask for forgiveness
3) Affirm your belief by praying a prayer like this:

Dear God, I understand I am a sinner and I thank you for forgiving my sins. I believe Jesus died for my sins. I accept His merciful gift of eternal life and I ask you to come into my heart. From this day forward I choose to follow You in humble obedience and earnestly seek Your will for my life. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Regardless of where you've been or where you are in life, be assured that God loves you and has a purpose for your life. His arms are open - for you. Rejoice!

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "While we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly" (Romans 5:6).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Want a marriage made in heaven? (Yes, yes…so is thunder and lightning.) Love your spouse as Christ loves you - with all the flaws and imperfections. Only through God’s power - can we do this fully.

Blessings for a "heavenly" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

If you prayed this prayer for the first time, please let someone know! It's exciting - it's life changing – it’s heavenly!

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LOVE DARE #19

2011-01-22T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 19: Love is Impossible

LOOK BACK OVER THE DARES FROM PREVIOUS DAYS. WERE THERE SOME THAT SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE TO YOU? HAVE YOU REALIZED YOUR NEED FOR GOD TO CHANGE YOUR HEART AND TO GIVE YOU THE ABILITY TO LOVE? ASK HIM TO SHOW YOU WHERE YOU STAND WITH HIM, AND ASK FOR THE STRENGTH AND GRACE TO SETTLE YOUR ETERNAL DESTINATION.

Okay, don't laugh. When you were little, did you ever wish you lived with the Jetson family? (Animated cartoon show - did I just give away my age?) The Jetsons could travel in their miniature rockets to planet Jupiter to work, play on Neptune, or make things happen with the push of a button.

Didn't happen, though - not within my power. In fact, there are many things not within my power - most things. However, I can tap into God's power. So can you. Things are impossible without God's power - even impossible to fully love, forgive, and enjoy your spouse - your life. So, how do we get that kind of power? Only one way - by asking Jesus into our hearts through faith in Him (John 3:16). Go ahead, check it out. You'll be glad you made this "trip" - it affects your eternal destination.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God" (1 John 4:7).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Surrender (yourself), receive (His power), and do the impossible - (Matthew 19:26).

Blessings for "safe travel" today,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #18

2011-01-21T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 18: Love Seeks to Understand

PREPARE A SPECIAL DINNER AT HOME, JUST FOR THE TWO OF YOU. THE DINNER CAN BE AS NICE AS YOU PREFER. FOCUS THIS TIME ON GETTING TO KNOW YOUR SPOUSE BETTER, PERHAPS IN AREAS YOU'VE RARELY TALKED ABOUT. DETERMINE TO MAKE IT AN ENJOYABLE EVENING FOR YOU AND YOUR MATE.

We can safely assume that all of us have some kind of an education - accomplishing diverse degrees at various levels. What level would you say your education is regarding your spouse? When you dated, you spent numerous hours doing your "homework" to develop a deeper level of knowledge and understanding. Have you continued with your studies? Have you gone beyond the "elementary" stages?

If we get a new phone, we educate ourselves on how it works. We master new tools, new career assignments, search through parenting magazines or recipe books - honing our skills until we get things just right. We didn't learn everything we needed to know instantly. Education and understanding is a journey, a process. Study your marriage syllabus, embrace changes, do your homework, and enjoy the life-long learning process.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding" (Proverbs 3:13).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: What would your marriage report card reveal? Don't let your marriage fail. Sharpen your marriage pencil, study your spouse, pass the tests, and make the grade. Advance to the next level!

Blessings for an "A+" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #17

2011-01-20T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 17: Love Promotes Intimacy

DETERMINE TO GUARD YOUR MATE'S SECRETS (UNLESS THEY ARE DANGEROUS TO THEM OR TO YOU) AND TO PRAY FOR THEM. TALK WITH YOUR SPOUSE, AND RESOLVE TO DEMONSTRATE LOVE IN SPITE OF THESE ISSUES. REALLY LISTEN TO THEM WHEN THEY SHARE PERSONAL THOUGHTS AND STRUGGLES WITH YOU. MAKE THEM FEEL SAFE.

We've enjoyed friends of all ages and stages in our lives - childhood, college, neighbors, church friends, and yes, even Facebook friends. All have the potential to make great memories, love, and support us. But none, I mean none - replace the intimacy and friendship we experience (should experience) in marriage.

In marriage, we share a home, finances, special evenings and morning breath. Along with commonalities, we brought in baggage and personal secrets. Some need to be corrected - some need to be accepted and protected. That's what God (who knows every teeny tiny detail about us) does. He loves us at a depth beyond our imagination and makes us feel safe. Do you?

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends" (Proverbs 17:9).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Commit to helping your spouse feel loved - and safe. Rebuild trust and intimacy. Make your home a safe haven.

Blessings for an "intimate" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #16

2011-01-19T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 16: Love Intercedes

BEGIN PRAYING TODAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE'S HEART. PRAY FOR THREE SPECIFIC AREAS WHERE YOU DESIRE FOR GOD TO WORK IN YOUR SPOUSE'S LIFE AND IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

Day 16. First, a quick question - did you take on the challenge of the 40-DAY LOVE DARE to improve your marriage and become a better partner - or to change your spouse? (It's okay; we'll keep it between us.) Granted, if you carry out each dare your spouse will likely be affected, but we can't change them. That's God's job.

The "Love Dare" book uses the analogy of the "wise farmer." A farmer plants a seed into fertile soil - then waters, fertilizes, and pulls the weeds. After that, he turns it over to God to grow - to bloom - to produce a harvest. A wise farmer prays.

Prayer is powerful - prayer changes circumstances - prayer is a spiritual phenomenon that produces miraculous results. Been griping or nagging? How's that working for you? Pray instead.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers" (3 John 2).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: You know your spouse well - their needs, their faults, their dreams. Pray for them - intercede for them. Pray for a bountiful growth in your marriage.

Blessings for a great day of harvest,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #15

2011-01-18T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 15: Love is Honorable

CHOOSE A WAY TO SHOW HONOR AND RESPECT TO YOUR SPOUSE THAT IS ABOVE YOUR NORMAL ROUTINE. IT MAY BE HOLDING THE DOOR FOR HER. IT MIGHT BE PUTTING HIS CLOTHES AWAY FOR HIM. IT MAY BE THE WAY YOU LISTEN AND SPEAK IN YOUR COMMUNICATION. SHOW YOUR MATE THAT HE OR SHE IS HIGHLY ESTEEMED IN YOUR EYES.

We address certain government officials as honorable. We consider one's life to be of honorable service. When we think of honor, we think of respect, high esteem. However, have you ever considered your spouse to be honorable?

The basis of the word honor is holy. When we entered holy matrimony, we promised to love, honor, and respect. So what's holy mean? To be set apart. We're to "set apart" our spouse from everyone else - everything else. An expensive antique vase, a prized heirloom, a crusty old photo or a brand new car - we set apart - highly value. Love honors the marriage partner - even when they don't deserve it.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Live with your wives in an understanding way...and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life" (1 Peter 3:7).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Would your spouse say you value and honor them? How about behind closed doors? Prove it.

Blessings for an "honorable" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #14

2011-01-17T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 14: Love Takes Delight

PURPOSEFULLY NEGLECT AN ACTIVITY YOU WOULD NORMALLY DO SO YOU CAN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE. DO SOMETHING HE OR SHE WOULD LOVE TO DO OR A PROJECT THEY'D REALLY LIKE TO WORK ON. JUST BE TOGETHER.

So, here you are - married. You traded the sports car for the minivan; traded sipping iced tea on the patio - to sippy cups on the floor. Your soul mate has become your roommate. From sparkle to fizzle. But wait! There's more!

No fire continues to burn on its own. Logs need to be added - fuel to keep the fire burning. What are you - specifically you - doing to keep the fire burning in your marriage? Sure, at the beginning of a relationship, love captured your heart. After a while, you felt captured all right - like living in a prison.

But, we can't operate on our feelings. We must choose to love - choose to add more fuel to our marriage fire. We must choose to notice the beautiful flames and enjoy the warmth, not focus on the ashes below. Lock arms, hold hands, better yet, embrace. Embrace each other, embrace your marriage, embrace the life God has given you - where you are, not where you wish you were.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life" (Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSB).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Delight in your marriage as it is today. Make plans to add more fuel.

Blessings for an "fired-up" marriage today,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #13

2011-01-16T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 13: Love Fights Fair

TALK WITH YOUR SPOUSE ABOUT ESTABLISHING HEALTHY RULES OF ENGAGEMENT. IF YOUR MATE IS NOT READY FOR THIS, THEN WRITE OUT YOUR OWN PERSONAL RULES TO "FIGHT" BY. RESOLVE TO ABIDE BY THEM WHEN THE NEXT DISAGREEMENT OCCURS.

Because God created us as individuals with different interests, dreams, and personality styles, conflict is inevitable. Every couple experiences it, but not every couple survives it. No marriage is exempt from conflict, but it doesn't have to be a death sentence if we approach conflict with established guidelines and boundaries. Below are a few guidelines Dale and I use:

1. Never "discuss" issues or make major decisions when we're tired
2. Set a time to discuss later
3. Keep past issues buried
4. Agree to disagree (without bitterness)
5. Always show respect verbally (and physically)
6. Hush up and listen (God created us with two ears, one mouth - on purpose!)
7. Quitting is not an option ("D" word - not in our vocabulary). We will work it out no matter what.

Couples who understand and work through conflict can actually enjoy a deeper connection and grow closer in the process. Remember, love is worth fighting for.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand" (Mark 3:25).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: It's how you handle conflict that determines if your marriage will survive it. Fight fair - fight for your marriage.

Blessings for an "outstanding" marriage today,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #12

2011-01-15T08:00:00.003-06:00

Day 12: Love Lets the Other Win

DEMONSTRATE LOVE BY WILLINGLY CHOOSING TO GIVE IN TO AN AREA OF DISAGREEMENT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE. TELL THEM YOU ARE PUTTING THEIR PREFERENCE FIRST.

Depending on your personality style, today's dare could be a tough one. Some of us strive to win - no matter what - and all of us enjoy winning. Although Dale and I both have strong personality styles, something we learned a long time ago was that it's more important for our marriage to win - rather than getting our own way.

Difference of opinion? Seek God's plan, not your own. He will not give polarized answers. For example, one of you may want more children, to buy a new house, or to home-school your kids - while the other one does not. It's simple - seek not your will, but pray for God's will.

Regarding less important decisions (paint colors, restaurant choices, etc.) - be flexible, cooperate, and willing to put your marriage first. Are you refusing to give in because of pride? Give it up and choose to honor your mate. Let your spouse know he/she is more important to you than winning.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others" (Philippians 2:4).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: If it doesn't matter in the long run, it doesn't matter. You've heard the saying - win the war, not the battle.

Blessings for a "winning" day,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #11

2011-01-14T08:04:00.001-06:00

Day 11: Love Cherishes

WHAT NEED DOES YOUR SPOUSE HAVE THAT YOU COULD MEET TODAY? CAN YOU RUN AN ERRAND? GIVE A BACK RUB OR FOOT MASSAGE? IS THERE HOUSEWORK YOU COULD HELP WITH? CHOOSE A GESTURE THAT SAYS, "I CHERISH YOU" AND DO IT WITH A SMILE.

Yesterday we discussed loving "in sickness and in health." If you were sick - news of a terrible disease - would you immediately take action to get well? If our marriage was "sick," would we take action? If our car breaks down - we fix it. Our roof leaks, we repair it. However, some of us treat our marriage like an old shirt. Worn out, outgrown? Just get a new one.

A few flaws - a weakness here or there - becomes an opportunity to discard the old - go for something new. If we love - we cherish. We nourish - we help one another grow through it. We mend, we fix, we bring "marriage chicken soup" to comfort and heal. Because we're one - if our spouse is hurting, we're hurting. Care for your spouse with the same love and tenderness you would - for yourself.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies" (Ephesians 5:28). (And I might add - visa versa.)

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Add marriage glue - stick together. Add marriage fertilizer - grow together. Add marriage vitamins - get healthy - together.

Blessings for a day to "cherish" forever,
Dale and Susan Crook

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LOVE DARE #10

2011-01-13T07:48:00.001-06:00

Day #10 – Love is Unconditional

DO SOMETHING OUT OF THE ORDINARY TODAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE – SOMETHING THAT PROVES (TO YOU AND TO THEM) THAT YOUR LOVE IS BASED ON YOUR CHOICE AND NOTHING ELSE. WASH HER CAR. CLEAN THE KITCHEN. BUY HIS FAVORITE DESSERT. FOLD THE LAUNDRY. DEMONSTRATE LOVE TO THEM FOR THE SHEER JOY OF BEING THEIR PARTNER IN MARRIAGE.

I love him because… he’s tall, dark, and handsome; he provides for our family, athletic, considerate, and plays with the kids. Or - I love her because… she’s so pretty, a great cook, energetic, life of the party, and a creative mom.

But, what happens when all this changes –kids gone, he/she’s not so athletic and energetic, and well - the inevitable wrinkles thing. If we love our spouse for the above mentioned qualities, then when these qualities diminish, so does the marriage. Unconditional love consists of loving regardless, loving in spite of, loving no matter what. Bald? You love him. Larger than life thighs? You love her. No teeth? Okay, go to the dentist.

In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or for worse. This defines God’s love for us – does it define your love for your spouse?

VERSE FOR TODAY’S DARE: “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY’S DARE: True love is a commitment, not based on feelings or circumstances. Therefore, the “I love him/her because…” becomes - “I love him/her, period.”

Commit to a "true love" day today,
Dale and Susan

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LOVE DARE #9

2011-01-12T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 9: Love Makes Good Impressions

THINK OF A SPECIFIC WAY YOU'D LIKE TO GREET YOUR SPOUSE TODAY. DO IT WITH A SMILE AND WITH ENTHUSIASM. THEN DETERMINE TO CHANGE YOUR GREETING TO REFLECT YOUR LOVE FOR THEM.

It's been a long day at work. You walk through the door to greet your spouse and immediately hear, "My day was awful! The kids did this - or my coworker did that. I wish we had more money, I wish you'd help more. I'm drained, I'm exhausted - I'm wondering why you're avoiding me again." Sound familiar? Tooooo familiar?

When you greet your spouse, knock their socks off. When they think of you, make sure they can't wait to experience the joy, peace, and love they feel when they're around you. Home is our safe haven. Regardless of how the day went, first greet with warmth, enthusiasm, and thankfulness to see one another - every time.

Remember the story in Luke 15:20 - the father ran to greet and embrace his prodigal son? Imagine the story (the detrimental results) if the father would have complained instead. So, what's your story?

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Greet one another with a kiss of love" (1 Peter 5:14).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Run, don't walk to meet, greet, and increase the heat in your home. (It's okay - it's "Fireproof!")

Make this an "impressive" day,
Dale and Susan

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LOVE DARE #8

2011-01-11T08:00:00.012-06:00

Day 8: Love is Not Jealous

DETERMINE TO BECOME YOUR SPOUSE'S BIGGEST FAN AND TO REJECT ANY THOUGHTS OF JEALOUSY. TO HELP YOU SET YOUR HEART ON YOUR SPOUSE AND FOCUS ON THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS, TAKE YESTERDAY'S LIST OF NEGATIVE ATTRIBUTES AND DISCREETLY BURN IT. THEN SHARE WITH YOUR SPOUSE HOW GLAD YOU ARE ABOUT A SUCCESS HE OR SHE RECENTLY ENJOYED.

Just between us, do you struggle with feelings of jealousy? Your coworker received the promotion. Your friend has more friends, cuter clothes, better golf score, bigger house, smarter kids, or worst of all - smaller thighs. Or - maybe you're jealous of your spouse. He wears clothes the entire day without spit-up. She didn't have to risk her life on treacherous "glistening and sparkling" snow-covered roads today - to pay the bills. He gets to eat out for lunch; she gets all the mac-n-cheese she wants every day.

Love is not jealous. Love promotes, love encourages, and love rejoices in successes. Throw a celebration party - not a pity party. God says we're to complete one another, not compete with one another. Be their #1 fan!

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice" (James 3:16).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: You're on the same team. Choose to get out of the grandstand and in the game. Go, fight (for your marriage), and WIN!

Make this a "victorious" day,
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #7

2011-01-10T08:00:00.001-06:00

Day 7: Love Believes the Best

FOR TODAY'S DARE, GET TWO SHEETS OF PAPER. ON THE FIRST ONE, SPEND A FEW MINUTES WRITING OUT POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. THEN DO THE SAME WITH NEGATIVE THINGS ON THE SECOND SHEET. PLACE BOTH SHEETS IN A SECRET PLACE FOR ANOTHER DAY. THERE IS A DIFFERENT PURPOSE AND PLAN FOR EACH. AT SOME POINT DURING THE REMAINDER OF THE DAY, PICK A POSITIVE ATTRIBUTE FROM THE FIRST LIST AND THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR HAVING THIS CHARACTERISTIC.

The response to the "40 DAY LOVE DARE" emails has been beyond what we ever could have imagined. God is at work and apparently, so are you! Obviously, you want the best for your marriage, but - do you believe the best - do you do your best?

As I look out the window (behind my computer screen), fresh snow is covering our backyard. It looks like God laid an enormous white blanket over all the muck and mud. The running creek is now frozen - the previously brown and lifeless backdrop sparkles a glistening white!

Is your marriage lifeless - full of muck and mud - frozen in the past? Why not sparkle? You too, can cover your marriage with fresh positive thoughts - freeze the negative - ditch the dirt - and blanket your spouse with love today.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Love believes all things, hopes all things" (1 Corinthians 13:7).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Develop the habit to rein in the negative thoughts (pray) and focus on the positive attributes of your spouse. Believe the best!

Make this your best snow day ever,
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #6

2011-01-09T08:00:00.000-06:00

Day 6: Love is Not Irritable

CHOOSE TODAY TO REACT TO TOUGH CIRCUMSTANCES IN YOUR MARRIAGE IN LOVING WAYS INSTEAD OF WITH IRRITATION. BEGIN BY MAKING A LIST OF AREAS WHERE YOU NEED TO ADD MARGIN TO YOUR SCHEDULE. THEN LIST ANY WRONG MOTIVATIONS THAT YOU NEED TO RELEASE FROM YOUR LIFE.

Yesterday's LOVE DARE may have prompted a bit of irritation. After all, who wants to hear about those "issues" that need improvement? The person who wants a "Championship Marriage" does! By the way, it's probably about time to increase your prayers for protection because Satan's loading the ammunition. Yes, that's irritating, but remember - we're not to be irritable.

We have a rule in our house - no "discussions" after 10 pm. We're tired, we're worn out, and too deficient to hold a "constructive conversation." It usually ends with a cranky, tired, cantankerous, and irritable spouse (the one with the longer hair) apologizing. Set perimeters, plan to talk soon, and don't hold a grudge.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city." (Proverbs 16:32).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Strive to remain calm and patient, restrain your temper, exhibit self-control, and keep the molehill - a molehill. Make love the "mountaintop" experience in your home!

Blessings for a non-irritating day,
Dale and Susan
(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #5

2011-01-08T08:00:00.000-06:00

Day 5: Love is Not Rude

ASK YOUR SPOUSE TO TELL YOU THREE THINGS THAT CAUSE HIM OR HER TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE OR IRRITATED WITH YOU. YOU MUST DO SO WITHOUT ATTACKING THEM OR JUSTIFYING YOUR BEHAVIOR. THIS IS FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE ONLY.

This could be a painful dare. Can we really listen to what our spouse has to say without defending ourselves? Are we tough enough, confident enough, love enough to take on this challenge?

Have you ever heard "someone else" yelling at the top of their lungs when the phone rings? Suddenly their tone is as delightful as can be. You hear a chipper, perky voice answer, "helloooo." Sometimes the politeness we show strangers or friends is much different than at home.

Genuine love minds its manners, avoids sarcastic remarks, and doesn't act unbecoming (spiteful, malicious, wicked or nasty - or disgusting - or nauseating). Love exercises self-control - even in small matters. Love practices the Golden Rule.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him." (Proverbs 27:14).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Would your spouse say, "You're a blessing" or, ”Sometimes you’re a teeny, tiny bit rude when…”? Starting today - we take it to a higher standard!

Blessings to you,
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #4

2011-01-07T08:00:00.000-06:00

Day 4: Love is Thoughtful

"CONTACT YOUR SPOUSE SOMETIME DURING THE BUSINESS OF THE DAY. HAVE NO AGENDA OTHER THAN ASKING HOW HE OR SHE IS DOING AND IF THERE IS ANYTHING YOU COULD DO FOR THEM."

Remember when you first met your spouse? You could not stop thinking about him/her! You wondered what he/she was doing, reminisced about the previous time spent together, even laughed at their jokes! Socks on the floor? "How cute. I'll be able to help this person!" Then... (hear the Jaws theme song?) the signing of the notorious marriage license. Not so funny anymore.

Life got busy - work, kids, romance sizzled out along with a few unmet needs and expectations. You've been disappointed, hurt, and possibly angry - or really hacked! Time to make them pay, right? Not so fast (the patience thing). Love requires thoughtfulness - yes, even when undeserved. Love calls us to meet in the middle, respect, appreciate, and help our spouse.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "How precious also are Your thoughts to me... How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand." (Psalm 139:18).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Communicate your concerns, forgive the past, focus on good thoughts today. Today's thoughts can affect tomorrow's outcome. Make that call!

Blessings,
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #3

2011-01-06T08:00:00.002-06:00

Day 3: Love is Not Selfish

"WHATEVER YOU PUT YOUR TIME, ENERGY, AND MONEY INTO WILL BECOME MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU. IT'S HARD TO CARE FOR SOMETHING YOU ARE NOT INVESTING IN. ALONG WITH RESTRAINING FROM NEGATIVE COMMENTS, BUY YOUR SPOUSE SOMETHING THAT SAYS, 'I WAS THINKING OF YOU TODAY.'"

With current struggling economic conditions, financial gifts may be a strain for you right now, however, does your spouse enjoy a favorite pack of gum? How about a favorite candy bar or granola bar, an inexpensive book, one beautiful flower, favorite magazine, fuzzy socks for a cold winter's night (especially if there's no fire burning right now!)? Or diamonds - if you must. Go the extra mile - fix a favorite meal, rolls from scratch (give me your address), cool basketball, new tackle box or a new sewing box. The list is endless.

It's giving from your heart that matters, but giving when it's truly sacrificial. Giving when you've identified what's important to your spouse - because you know your spouse. (Keep in mind, if you give generously for bragging rights later or for a reward in return - it's - yes, considered selfish.)

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves" (Philippians 2:3).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Deliberately and specifically sacrifice your wants for your spouse's wants - for the greater purpose of your marriage.

Dale and I are also "thinking of you today." We're praying for your marriages and asking you to pray for one another as well. Let the "Marriage Revolution" begin!

Blessings,
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

LOVE DARE #2

2011-01-05T08:00:00.003-06:00

Day 2: Love is Kind

"IN ADDITION TO SAYING NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN TODAY, DO AT LEAST ONE UNEXPECTED GESTURE AS AN ACT OF KINDNESS."

Yesterday our LOVE DARE was patience - controlling our emotions and avoiding anger. Today we'll focus on being a blessing to our spouse - showing kindness. Patience deals with a reactive behavior, while kindness is proactive. The "Love Dare" book breaks kindness into four categories:

1. GENTLENESS - Be sensitive and tender when speaking - never harsh.
2. HELPFULNESS - Meet the needs of the moment. Housework? Let's get busy. A listening ear? Pull up a chair.
3. WILLINGNESS - Cooperate, stay flexible, avoid complaining - accommodate.
4. INITIATIVE - The kind spouse will be the first one to greet, smile, serve, and yes, forgive.

VERSE FOR TODAY'S DARE: "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you" (Ephesians 4:32).
THOUGHT FOR TODAY'S DARE: Don't wait for your spouse to be the first one to be kind. Grab a match - start the fire.

Blessings to you as we continue on this forty day journey together. Your comments reveal God truly is at work. We're praying for you!
Dale and Susan

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick to gain additional information and record your results.)

LOVE DARE #1

2011-01-04T08:00:00.017-06:00

Today begins the first of the forty day “Love Dare” emails, culminating on Feb. 12th. On Sunday, Feb. 13th Dale and I will teach a onetime “Championship Marriage” class at College Church – just in time for Valentine’s Day. If you’ve not had a chance to watch the movie, “Fireproof,” do so as soon as possible. (We would be happy to share a copy with you if you need one.) Regardless if your marriage is blazing and amazing – or a fizzle with no sizzle, it’s never too late to ignite the fire! :) (Sorry, couldn’t resist.) It’s our prayer that the marriages of the people we know and love (that’s you) burn with a passion for a “Championship Marriage.” In 2011, let’s all lock arms and encourage one another – pray for one another – to win – and to never settle for just a mediocre marriage. Fire up!

Day 1: Love is Patient

Although we communicate love in a number of ways, words often reflect the condition of our hearts. For today’s dare, resolve to demonstrate patience and to speak only positive words to your spouse. If the temptation arises to complain, hold your tongue rather than to say something you'll regret.

When choosing to be patient, we choose to respond in a positive way to a negative situation. When we're slow to anger, we extend mercy. We choose to control our emotions rather than allowing our emotions to control us. Anger stems from not getting something we want - a reaction based on selfishness. And exhibiting patience reveals wisdom.

VERSE FOR TODAY’S DARE: "He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly" (Proverbs 14:29).

THOUGHT FOR TODAY’S DARE: Few of us easily demonstrate patience well, but wise men and women pursue it. So today, our first dare to express true love begins with - patience.

(Want to take it a step further? Purchase the “Love Dare” book by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick for additional information and to record your results.)

Blessings to you as we embark on this forty day journey together!
Dale and Susan

Olathe girl puts her American Girl doll to good use - nbcactionnews.com

2010-07-26T20:03:00.000-05:00

Olathe girl puts her American Girl doll to good use - nbcactionnews.com

Not me!

2010-05-12T21:33:00.003-05:00

“Uh-oh. Look at this,” he motioned to his assistant. Face-down on the examination table in the oh-so-typical and not-so-cute little hospital gown, I realized my worst fears may have just come true. As my dermatologist searched for signs of skin cancer on my back, I searched for the strength to face what might lie ahead.

“You have skin cancer,” was actually a familiar phrase. Been there, done that. However, my prior experience consisted of basal cell carcinoma – the less severe and slower growing type of skin cancer on my face and chest. My greatest fear had always been - melanoma – the very serious kind – the kind that can metastasize and spread like wildfire if you don’t catch it early. The kind that takes one life every hour.

“Most likely it’s melanoma,” my dermatologist continued. “We’ll find out what stage when the biopsy comes back,” launching the longest five days of my life.

Skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the U.S. More than 1 million cases of skin cancer are diagnosed each year. Yes, that’s scary. As with any cancer, early detection is the key. Prevention is even better.

Are you at risk? I’m aware that it is possible that you feel that this couldn’t happen to you. I felt certain that I was exempt. OTHER people get skin cancer. OTHER people need sunblock. OTHER people have to be concerned with the damaging rays. Besides that, it’s a pain in the pale-white-booty to apply this stuff.

But, we’ve gotta’ do it. We’ve got to take the time and effort to protect our skin – ours and our kids. In summation, everyone’s at risk.

The best ways to enjoy an active summer, but lower the risk of skin cancer are to:

Avoid the sun between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m.
Seek shade. If your shadow is shorter than you are, the sun’s rays are at their strongest.
Cover up with protective clothing (tightly woven fabrics you cannot see through).
Use sunscreen with a sun protection factor (SPF) of 15 or higher. Apply a generous amount (about a palmful) and reapply after swimming, toweling dry, or perspiring (even on hazy or overcast days).
Cover your head with a wide-brimmed hat, shading your face, ears, and neck.
Wear sunglasses with 99% to 100% UV absorption to provide optimal protection for the eyes.
Avoid tanning beds like the plague. They’re 15 times as intensive!

As adults, we’re also responsible for protecting our children from overexposure to the sun. Kids don’t always “get it.” In fact, they usually complain that applying sunblock is a hassle and delays their fun. So, check out the new scents, fun colors, and cute shapes.

Fortunately, we caught the melanoma on my back early. Following surgery (and many prayers), I can say I’m “C” free again. But I will continuously go for check-ups (modeling the latest fashion in hospital gowns), experience the slice and dice of a biopsy, and anxiously await the results. It’s worth the effort. In fact, compared to the risk of skin cancer, it “pales” in comparison.

I’m passionate that you enjoy your summer – but more importantly – you are able to enjoy a long life to the fullest!

Join with me in reminding your friends and family that the month of May is Skin Cancer Awareness month.

Do-over Day!

2010-04-16T06:55:00.002-05:00

I’ve often said, “Enjoy today - make it your best day ever because we don’t get a do-over!” But today’s different – it's a do-over day! Here’s why - I’ll begin the day in Sydney, Australia, then fly to Hawaii tonight - actually arriving in Honolulu – this morning! Because of crossing over the international dateline, it’s a do-over day!

Wouldn’t it be great if we had do-over days? Think of the possibilities. Impatient with your child before school? Do-over! Snapped at your spouse for working late? Do-over! Missed an opportunity to show kindness to a stranger? Didn’t take time to share that cup of coffee with a friend? Tasks not completed? Passed on the exercise class? Do-over!

Granted, it’s an unusual circumstance to actually do-over a day, but it’s not too late to place at least one or two priorities on our list each day, every day – love others, choose joy, show kindness, and yes, the biggie – patience. Regardless if your day’s just beginning in Australia - or ending in the States, we can begin now.

If only I could do-over yesterday’s television appearance on the Morning Show in Sydney! I can think of a thousand things I “could-a/would-a” said on their “Happy Families” personality segment! Urgh! Oh well, as we know, not every day’s a do-over. Sometimes we just have to accept that we did our best and tomorrow – thank goodness - we’ll get another shot.

Until then, may this be your best day – or two – ever!

Health Care

2010-03-23T10:39:00.000-05:00

Our current government has refused to reflect the mandate of the American people. We have a BIG fight on our hands, but thank goodness - we have an even BIGGER God. Let us rest assured that NONE of this is new news to Him and ALL of this has been - and will be - used for His purpose. HIS will - will be done, regardless of this temporary victory. As you're aware, our country is in desperate need of extensive prayers!

2010-01-08T13:56:00.000-06:00

Mounds of snow BURIED the spot light in front of our house, but last night the light burst through - shining brighter than ever. Just like when we're in the midst of the winter storms of LIFE, we too, can trust God's light to burst through and shine bright in all circumstances.

Susan Crook Communications: Yada, Yada, Yada - Happy New Year

2010-01-01T14:21:00.000-06:00

Susan Crook Communications: Yada, Yada, Yada - Happy New Year

Yada, Yada, Yada - Happy New Year

2010-01-01T14:18:00.002-06:00

Happy New Year!

I know, I know. Some of us are thinking, “Yeal, yeal, yeal. What’s so great about another new year? It’s another year of bills, another year of rebellious kids or cranky spouse, another year in a disastrous job (or no job), another year of never ending health issues...” Yada, yada, yada.

But hark, I bring you good news of yes - great joy. God is in control! Not me. Not you. The Creator of the entire universe has our agenda set for 2010. And more good news - His plans are to prosper us and bring a hope for our future. His goals for this year are not to harm us, destroy us, sorrow us, or cause us to consume a gallon of ice cream before the day’s over. His plans are - in fact - perfect.

We feeble human beings, however, just don’t have a clue what God has planned for us this year. You see, we’re a bit in the dark on this, but we can confidently trust that God will shine the light on the precise steps we are to take. I mean really - would you make horrible, dreadful plans for your child this year? Nope. Yet God loves you MORE than you love your child (wayward or not), grandchild, or favorite sweater. His desire is for us to love Him - TRUST Him. We may not trust ourselves, but we can trust our loving, all-knowing Heavenly Father.

And just because we aren’t aware of all the great things God has planned for us doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Paul told us (Remember Paul? Think - prison, shipwrecked, beaten, cold, hungry, stoned and left for dead!) in 1 Corinthians 2:9, “However, as it is written: ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him…’”

For who? For those who work their tail off, worry like no tomorrow, bite their fingernails and get ulcers in the process? No. For those who LOVE Him. That’s it. Love Him.

So on this first day of a fresh, new year I urge you to ask yourself, “Where do I want to be at the end of these 365 days? God has us hanging-out on this earth for a distinct purpose. Therefore, we all have a responsibility to discover our purpose, put feet on our faith, and aim for our goals. What are your goals? What are your dreams? And most importantly, what are you doing to make them happen?

First and foremost, ask God to open the doors - to bless you with the opportunities, situations, and relationships you need to succeed in accomplishing all He has planned for you. Remember, His plans are for our enjoyment so that we can live an abundant life. However, Satan wants to steal, kill, and destroy those plans. Who will you listen to?

Start today – break a bad habit, improve your health, learn a new skill, spend more time in the Word, be a blessing, encourage someone, and enjoy your life to the max. Granted, the situations may not change overnight, but we’ll certainly enjoy the process and defeat the enemy’s schemes to make our days as dreadful as possible.

Decide on this day – a new year – a new decade – a new proclamation – this WILL be my best year ever. That doesn’t mean there will be no financial problems, rebellious kids, difficult jobs, health issues, or expanding thighs (a direct result of consuming that gallon of ice cream), but it does mean that we will have victory over all things when we trust in God’s sovereign, perfect, and loving plans for us.

May we all choose to know God and experience a “Happy New Year” all year long. Yada, yada, Yahweh!

Susan Crook Communications

2009-12-17T08:48:00.000-06:00

Susan Crook Communications

2009-12-16T08:59:00.002-06:00

“How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity!” (Psalm 133:1).

I would say then - to experience the power of God in our lives we must work at this today…tomorrow…EVERY day. So, I’m thinking that the Christmas season - family gatherings, the hustle, bustle - must be a great “opportunity” to gain God’s power, huh?

Have a fabulous “powerful” day in the Lord!

2008-05-21T06:35:00.002-05:00

THE AMERICAN GIRL TEA PARTY:

A few weeks ago my ten-year-old daughter, Madison, watched Life Today one morning before school. She saw children drinking water from a contaminated river in Africa. Animals were also in this water (dead and alive) as well as people were washing their clothes, bathing, etc. Tragically, this is their only choice of water and it’s causing 10,000 deaths a DAY.

As Madison watched this, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said, “Mom, I feel like God wants me to do something to help those children get water." My response was, "Well, let's pray about it and see what we could (possibly) do."

A couple of weeks went by and I have to admit, I was a little hesitant about taking on this task. I prayed for God to specifically speak to me through scripture if we should do this or not. Coincidentally, I opened my Bible to Matthew 25, “I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink. Whatever you did for one of the least of these...you did for me.”

As if that wasn’t good enough, the next day I prayed again, “Are ya’ SURE, Lord?” That morning when I opened my little daily devotional book - yep, you guessed it - same verses.

So-o-o-o, we’re holding a tea (in our spare time) to raise funds to dig a water well (never done THAT before)! The “American Girl Tea Party – American Girls Saving Lives Around the World” will be held on Sunday afternoon, July 13, 2008 at the beautiful new Bell Cultural Events Center on the MidAmerica Nazarene University campus in Olathe, KS.

We'll enjoy garden tea party sandwiches, delicate tea cakes, cookies, and of course tea or pink lemonade. You'll simply love the outstanding entertainment and amazing silent auction baskets and items are rolling in! We just received word that the beautiful "AMERICAN GIRL TEA PRINCESS" from the "WISHING WELL CASTLE" is arriving just in time for the tea! A professional photographer will be available for a special photo memory opportunity. Bring your favorite doll for a lovely afternoon with family and friends - aunts, sisters, cousins, and neighbors! And you will love the surprise to take home!

We are very blessed to live with such comfort and conveniences, but did you know that four MILLION people die every year due to water related illnesses? Or as Madison notes, “Mom, it’s been eight seconds, one more person just died.” One well, however, can provide fresh water for a whole community.

Several people have expressed that they’ve often wanted to help, but didn’t know what to do. Through this tea, we have a chance to make a difference – literally saving lives around the world. Proverbs 31:20 says, “Her hands reach out to the poor, and she extends her hands to the needy.” Let’s reach out together.

Our goal is to raise enough funds to dig a water well - $4800. The cost to attend the tea will be $15 (or $20 after June 29th). We would love for you to be a part of this opportunity to help others. Please contact us if you would like additional information, to become a sponsor for the tea, donate items, or have a heart of compassion to make a difference in the lives of children around the world. We hope to hear from you soon.

Blessings,
Madison and Susan Crook

"Whoever gives just a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is a disciple -- I assure you: He will never lose his reward!" Matthew 10:42.

Merry Christmas from the "Crooks" 2007

2007-12-20T09:54:00.000-06:00

Merry Christmas from the "Crooks!"

Good news this 2007 Christmas! We can experience FREEDOM through Christ! Because of His abundant, steadfast, and never-ending love, we are free to enjoy the miracles large and small that surround us.

And let's not forget to recognize those miracles, offering praise and thanksgiving.

Yes, life can be a battle and change is hard, but the "chains" binding old ways can be tossed aside! How? We are transformed into His likeness when we accept His love and mercy offered through the miracle of Jesus' birth.

It is my desire that you accept and treasure the greatest gift of all this Christmas. The gift that God sent to us many years ago - His Son.

"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32.

"So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed." John 8:36.

MAKE THIS YOUR BEST CHRISTMAS EVER!

SUSAN CROOK IN CHICAGO

2007-10-28T14:00:00.000-05:00

Watch Susan Crook's television appearances in Chicago the week of November 12th!

SCOTT AND ERIN'S 2nd ANNIVERSARY

2007-09-10T09:42:00.000-05:00

BACK-TO-SCHOOL DUELS

2007-08-24T14:50:00.000-05:00

Holly prefaced her email with, "Tears are falling as I write this, but I need to tell you something. For the last couple of years my daughter, Allison, climbed on the school bus each morning wiping away a flood of tears. I repeatedly exploded with anger and frustration because Allison was too slow and disorganized. Our school mornings were war."

Holly continued, "I heard you speak about two weeks ago and was stunned when I learned about the personality information and how it affects relationships. I read your book, "Personality Insights for Moms" and realized that I always expected Allison to act like I do (fast, organized, and charging out the door).

"Allison's personality style, on the other hand, needs plenty of time to adjust to each new day by waking up slowly. She requires lots of hugs and reassurance.

"I actually resented that because I'm NOT that way. However, after understanding our personality differences, our school mornings changed dramatically! I now know that I'm a 'D' and Allison's an 'S.' I've been a drill sergeant and she's been crushed! No wonder our relationship has struggled. I didn't understand her and she didn't understand me.

"How could I have been so hard on her and not understood that it's okay to be different? This information has changed our lives! I feel so bad for all our fights and misunderstandings, but I'm going to make it up to her from now on."

Holly went on to say, "For the FIRST TIME EVER, Allison left for school this morning happy and with a smile on her face!

"And so this morning, I'm the one with tears - tears of sadness for all the happy times we've missed - and tears of joy for the happiness that we now share. Thank you so much."

Needless to say, after reading this email, I too, shed tears. There's no greater joy then when you impact someone else's life - in a positive way. And we ALL possess the opportunity to impact lives - one way or another.

Do you understand your children's personality style enough to know why they do what they do? Are they allowed to feel accepted for their unique personality style - or ostracized for being different?

The child you impact may be at home, school, church, daycare, or in your neighborhood, but opportunities exist around every corner to help others feel accepted and appreciated for who they are - just the way they are - and to feel understood.

If a child feels being different is wrong, then he or she may develop poor self-esteem or lack confidence to pursue goals and dreams. But when a child feels understood, a child feels loved.

Do you experience a "war" in your home each morning before school - as Holly and Allison did? Do you have a child in your life (in your classroom) whom you experience conflict or clash with quite often because of differing personality styles? Choose to appreciate your differences and relate to one another with admiration and respect. Establish guidelines, systems, and methods for success.

Let your loving smile of affirmation and acceptance be the last thing you give your children each day when they head out the door for school.

Assure your child that he or she is the "apple" of your eye.

"INTER-DEPENDENCE" DAY

2007-07-24T15:39:00.000-05:00

"The sky is falling ... apart! The sky is falling ... apart!" he shouted while darting through the crowd dodging blankets, leaping over picnic baskets and hurdling every cooler.

Bolting for the car, my then two-year-old son, Scott, was almost a block away before I could catch up with him. "Stop!" I yelled. "It's okay! It's just the fireworks!" Misunderstanding the cause of the exploding sky, this determined little tike quickly lost his enthusiasm to celebrate the festivities and ran for cover.

Over 280 million celebrated the birthday of our great nation earlier this month with the usual picnics, family, friends, and fireworks. "E-e-ews" and "a-a-aahs echoed abound while brilliant fireworks exploded in the night sky celebrating our unique opportunity as Americans to enjoy life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Over 200 years ago on Independence Day, fireworks exploded in the sky, but I would venture to say that our ancestors exploded more with emotional excitement and enthusiasm as they pursued and anticipated the freedom and independence awaiting our brand new country.

How ironic then, that the key to our country's independence today actually stems from the inter-dependence of yesterday. In fact, our country was built on interdependence. We harvested together, raised barns together, worked and worshiped together. We taught one another skills and shared expertise to survive. Otherwise, without appreciating and recognizing the value of interdependence, eminent failure would have persisted for our country - our people.

We knew then what we should know now. God revealed that the greatest commandment is to love Him. What's the second greatest commandment? We are to love our neighbors. "There are NO GREATER COMMANDMENTS THAN THESE." Whoa! That's serious stuff!

You might be thinking, "What can I possibly do for my neighbor - my country?" Amidst all our foibles and imperfections or lack of talent and influence, look around to see how you can bless someone - receiving nothing in return. (Careful, though. You'll probably be the one who ends up blessed!)

When we're intertwined in people's lives, there's more purpose and fulfillment. When we're connected to others, we experience "independence" from loneliness, solitude, and life without purpose.

No "buts." You can't tell me there's not someone out there who needs you right now. Start with one. And start today, because tomorrow may be too late. Act courageously and boldly be willing to join in where's God's calling you. After all, He uses the most unlikely characters to accomplish His purpose. He doesn't look for the perfect, He looks for the willing.

Allow me to make a 2007 Proclamation - embrace the remaining 364 days of the year as a declaration of "Inter-Dependence Day." Veto complacency. Reach out to your neighbor, be proud of our country with undiminished devotion, and love the one and only true God with all your heart. You, too, will experience an explosion - of joy and happiness! (And rest assured - the sky is NOT falling ... apart!)

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Susan Crook

WHO'S AT RISK?

2007-06-16T12:17:00.000-05:00

"Uh-oh. Look at this," he motioned to his assistant. Face-down on the examination table in the oh-so-typical and not-so-cute little hospital gown, I realized my worst fears may have just come true.

As my dermatologist searched for signs of skin cancer on my back, I searched for the strength to face what might lie ahead.

"You have skin cancer," was actually a familiar phrase. Been there, done that. However, my prior experience consisted of basal cell carcinoma - the less severe and slower growing type of skin cancer on my face and chest. My greatest fear had always been - melanoma - the very serious kind - the kind that can metastasize and spread like wildfire if you don't catch it early. The kind that takes a life every hour.

"Most likely it's melanoma," my dermatologist continued. "We'll find out what stage when the biopsy comes back," launching the longest five days of my life.

Skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the U.S. More than 1 million cases of skin cancer are diagnosed each year. Yes, that's scary. As with any cancer, early detection is the key. Prevention is even better.

Are you at risk? I'm aware that it IS possible that you feel this could never happen to you. I felt certain that I was exempt. OTHER people get skin cancer. OTHER people need sunblock. OTHER people have to be concerned with the damaging rays. Besides that, it's a pain in the pale-white-booty to apply this stuff.

But, we've gotta' do it. We've got to take the time and effort to protect our skin - our own and our kid's. In summation, everyone's at risk. The best ways to have an active summer, but lower the risk of skin cancer are to:

Avoid the sun between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m.
Seek shade. If your shadow is shorter than you, the sun's rays are at their strongest.
Cover up with protective clothing (tightly woven fabrics you can't see through).
Use sunscreen with a sun protection factor (SPF) of 15 or higher. Apply a generous amount (about a palmful) and reapply after swimming, towling dry, or perspiring (even on hazy or overcast days).
Cover your head with a wide-brimmed hat, shading your face, ears, and neck.
Wear sunglasses with 99% to 100% UV absorption to provide optimal protection for the eyes.
Avoid tanning beds like the plague. They're 15 times as intensive!

As adults, we're also responsible for protecting our children from overexposure to the sun. Kids don't always "get it." In fact, they usually complain that applying sunblock is a hassle and delays their fun. Why not check out the new scents, fun colors, and cute shapes?

Fortunately, we caught the melanoma on my back early. Following surgery (and many prayers), I can say I'm "C" free again. But I will continuously go for checkups (modeling the latest fashion in hospital gowns), experience the slice and dice of a biopsy, and anxiously await the results. It's worth the effort. In fact, compared to the risk of skin cancer, it "pales" in comparison.

I'm passionate for you to enjoy your summer - but more importantly - that you get to enjoy your LIFE!

Susan Crook
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Earl

2007-05-15T15:59:00.000-05:00

It is with great sadness and yet great peace to let you know that Earl passed away yesterday. He went peacefully in his own home with my mom beside him, as per his request. Widowed, he and my mother “dated” for 13 years. Besides being a part of our family, he was also my high school principal.

After numerous “heated discussions” over the years about the existence of God, most of you know – I had the great honor and privilege to lead Earl in the prayer of salvation less than a month ago. The doctors said that he probably wouldn’t make it through the night. Facing death without Christ, I saw a 76 year old man full of fear and panic as he motioned me over to the side of his hospital bed, barely able to breathe, and with a frantic plea to discuss “the end” once again.

Paul told us in Philippians 2:10-11 that one day EVERY knee will bow and EVERY tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. What a GREAT JOY to know that Earl asked Christ into his heart before it was too late and is indeed in heaven! God blessed Earl with an additional month – a miracle - after that night to enjoy his new life. When I took lunch (his favorite steak soup) to him for the last time a few days ago, I saw a man full of peace and contentment. Truly - a different person in Christ.

I attribute your numerous prayers as a direct contribution to Earl’s salvation. Thank you for your prayers during the previous months and please pray now for comfort for the rest of the family. A couple of weeks ago during his last week in the hospital, a nurse (God uses everybody) told Earl about Ecclesiastes 3, “A Time for Everything.” He asked if I would make sure that it was read at his funeral. I felt led to share this familiar and beautiful verse with all of you, as well.

Ecclesiastes 3 - A Time for Everything

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
... a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
... a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
... a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
... a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
... a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,
... a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,
... a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

We don’t know when, where, or why things happen, but we can be assured that God’s love, plan, and purpose for each one of us is nothing less than absolutely perfect. “No eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the human heart conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9.

Keep loving, keep praying, and never give up hope. Be assured that God hears and answers ALL prayers. None of us can drift beyond His love. And His immeasurable love – is endless. May Earl, indeed, rest in peace -- and dance in heaven.

God bless,
Susan Crook

2007-05-10T09:08:00.000-05:00

Hey! Check out my May Newsletter at http://www.susancrook.com/Newsletter/Monthly_newsletters/May_2007.htm!

Happy Mother's Day!

Susan Crook

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2007-04-04T11:17:00.000-05:00

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2007-03-28T17:40:00.000-05:00

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